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Avventure preconiugali: il corso per fidanzati

03 Tuesday Dec 2013

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cappello, Chelsea, chiesa, Corso prematrimoniale, matrimonio, Pimlico, prete, sposo

Tra sei mesi mi sposo e non ho nessuna intenzione di trasformare il blog in una cronaca meticolosa della preparazione dell’evento. Ma la mia anima narratrice non può resistere dal raccontare alcuni episodi che costellano questi mesi così intensi ed emozionanti. Non vi preoccupate, non leggerete di dispute filosofiche sui vantaggi del cappello. Mi dedichero’ invece alle cose pratiche.

Capitolo uno: il corso per fidanzati.

Il Lord ed io avevamo un bel po’ di aspettative per questo corso. Non di essere illuminati lungo la via di Damasco, ma di ricevere alcuni spunti di discussione interessante, e anche un po’ una pacca sulla spalla, come a dire: “dai, siete sulla buona strada”.

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A guidare la scelta del corso, la praticità: lo vogliamo breve e vicino a casa. Non abbbiamo bisogno che qualcuno ci faccia il quadro astrale per decidere di volerci sposare.

Abbandoniamo quindi l’idea di frequentarlo nella bella chiesa di Cadogan Gardens a Chelsea, optando invece per la localissima, e ben più anonima, chiesetta di Pimlico, da sempre snobbata perché ha più l’aspetto di una scuola che di una chiesa.

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Non ci confessiamo però un desiderio che poi scopriremo essere comune: quello di incontrare altri esemplari di specie umana simili a noi, coppie di William e Beatrici, di Jeremy e Gaie, di Rupert e Caterine, della nostra stessa zona, con vite, lavori e storie simili. Non accadrà. Veniamo invece catapultati in una mega sala con altre 42 coppie di ogni etnia immaginabile, età, e religione. Pensavo che al corso per il matrimonio cattolico ci fossero solo cattolici, e invece il tasso di coppie di religione mista è molto alto. Del resto, nel caso ce ne fossimo dimenticati, siamo a Londra, non a Portogruaro.

Se nessuna di queste coppie assomiglia a noi, in compenso si assomigliano moltissimo tra loro. E’ un po’ la storia del cane e del padrone, o l’incarnazione del detto popolare “chi si somiglia si piglia”. A corso finito, ecco le nostre conclusioni:

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Uno: il lunedì è una serata giusta per organizzare corsi e prendersi impegni: abbiamo dimostrato di saperli rispettare.

Due: siamo riusciti a divertirci e intrattenerci al corso, grazie ai contenuti decisamente desueti. Esempi di domande a cui abbiamo dovuto rispondere: pensi che la moglie debba seguire il marito per lavoro? Credi che gli uomini siano più preparati delle donne nel prendere decisioni finanziarie?

Tre: Io non do consigli su come cambiare la marmitta del motorino. Perché devo sentirmi dire dal prete che il una performance tra le lenzuola non vale gran che se non supera i 15 minuti? Invito i preti a lavorare 12/14 ore nella City e poi se ne riparla.

Quattro: la gente non ha opinioni. Credevo che qualunque individuo dotato di un po’ di sale in zucca si formi un’opinione su figli, finanze, sesso, educazione. Il corso ci ha sbattuto in faccia l’inquietante realtà tanta gente si sposa senza discutere questi pilastri della convivenza di coppia.

Auguri anche a loro.

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Wedtales. This is not a wedding blog

03 Tuesday Dec 2013

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Cadogan Gardens in Chelsea, church, Katy Perry, pre wedding course, Russel Brand, wedding

Next year I will be getting married. Hurrah! Although I have no intention to turn this blog into a live commentary of my wedding planning, I cannot resist telling few tales in the run up to the big day. I promise, I will limit myself, despite the fact that there are several ingredients for a long tale here. Let’s put the philosophical dispute between hats and fascinators on one side and let’s focus on the practical stuff.

With less than 6 months to go, we had to attend a course, one of many steps that will enable us to get lawfully married in the Catholic Church.

Choosing which course to attend was fairly easy, as we had two very stringent and simple criteria: as close as possible to our home and shamelessly. No compatibility test, astrological report  or one to one coaching required.

So we put on one side the idea of attending the (long) course at the beautiful church in Cadogan Gardens in Chelsea and opt for the local and really anonymous one in Pimlico. It looks like a school, not a church. Mom-Dad-2.5-kids-a-dog-and-a-white-picket-fence-Forget-it-says-Packaged-Facts-America-is-changing-and-food-marketers-need-to-catch-up_strict_xxl

Winter. Monday, 7 pm. The pre marriage course starts and the Lord and I report on time to the local church hall. We have some expectations: nothing life changing, all we want is to meet someone with more experience than us that tell us something like ‘you are heading in the right direction’.

50sUpon arrival, we were thrown in a massive room, with other 42 couples from every imaginable country. Mixed colours, religions and stories. Welcome to London, once again, in case we both forgot where we are. This diversity never fails to amaze me. If none of these couple has anything in common with us, they all look alike. A lot. Like a dog and its owner.

The Lord and I didn’t confess to each other a little dream – which will never be fulfilled: we were hoping to meet other couples very similar to us: William and Beatrice, Gaia and Jeremy. Imaginary friends, with stories, jobs and lives similar to ours. Clearly my fantasy runs too fast. We didn’t meet any of those similar couples. We didn’t even get close to it.

Now the course is over, we even got a certificate for it. Here are some conclusions:

One: Monday is a good day to make arrangements and attend courses. We were punctual and didn’t fail to attend each lesson.

Two: We managed to have fun, thanks to some sexist and out of date questions we had to answer. A couple of examples: Do you think that the wife should follow the husband during his career?

Do you think that men are better suited at managing finances?

Three: I do not give advise on how to fix your scooter’s muffler. Why does a priest feel the urge to tell us that performance under the bed sheets should last at least 15 minutes? Work in the City for the average 12/14 hours and we can talk again.

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Two who didn’t attend any pre wedding course

Four: People do not have opinions and they do not share them. A lot of our “colleagues” haven’t discussed kids, finance, sex and education. It is a disturbing thought that people get married without sharing their views on pretty fundamental things. Apparently 50% of those will end up divorcing. Best of luck to all of them too.

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